What would you tell your kid(s) if they
… messed up?
… were beating themselves up?
… were struggling and needed help?
… asked you for love and attention?
THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT.
I bet it wouldn’t be ….
…what’s wrong with you? (in a disgusted tone)
…why can’t you just figure it out on your own or suck it up? Everyone else is!
…you don’t deserve support, rest or pleasure - you haven’t earned it
…you’re so needy, selfish and high maintenance
If any of those thoughts tend to circle through your brain on repeat, you’re not alone.
After witnessing the minds of women in my decade-long practice as a therapist and yoga teacher (not to mention my own mind for forty years!), I’m reminded time and time again:
Women speak to themselves in a way they’d NEVER speak to their children, a friend, or even a stranger.
Which is why I want you to hear and absorb this into every cell of your being.
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You can write the rules.
You can get clear on the values that matter to YOU.
You can pass off or drop ALL the balls that you never wanted to pick up in the first place.
You can ask for support and more importantly… RECEIVE IT … without guilt and doubt.
You can feel confident and at ease in the messy unknowns that are what parenting is all about.
You can stay present and grounded in the tantrums and with the triggers… and better yet - respond intentionally in a way that feels in line with those values that are so important to you.
You can know (and not question!) what you need to thrive as a woman and mom… and feel comfortable being assertive and asking for what you need.
“I don’t have any time for myself.” → “I make time for what I value and I know that I am worth my own time and attention.”
“It’s too much money.” → “Investing in myself is the single most important investment I can ever make. Becoming a more mindful and compassionate human has an infinite return on investment.”
“I don’t think it will actually help.” → “I trust the science and powerful testimonials of the women who have come before me… and know that what I get out of it is connected to what I put in.”
What does “Mothering oneself mindfully” mean? Let’s look to nature:
When you’re born, you are your own little garden of healthy, fertilized soil. You are fresh out (literally!) with no seeds or growth.
But for the early years of your life… other people start tending to the garden that is you.
Your caregivers, the communities you’re a part of and your culture and society as a whole plant “seeds” ie. beliefs and thoughts that become an unhealthy self-image and programmed beliefs.
Your external environment and those around you are in control of your garden.
Until you become an adult… and have a more developed brain (ie. a prefrontal cortex) that can start to assess, reason and make conscious decisions for yourself.
And that’s where you are now: reading this with that ripe (no pun intended) mind of yours…
which means you have the ability to become your own gardener.
And... to cultivate your own awareness and tend to your previously grown and developed garden of beliefs and behaviors.
This is at the heart of mothering yourself mindfully.
It’s becoming conscious of what's in your "garden" (ie. your mind and body).
It’s prepping the soil to figure out how you can cultivate new habits of thinking, being and doing in your mind, body and life.
It's deciding what weeds have been growing that need to be uprooted.
It’s asking yourself what new seeds do I want to plant today that will help me grow and develop into the human, parent, partner, friend and family member that I want to be?
Or perhaps, what needs to be nourished that’s been neglected?
"To say Sarah and The School of MOM has helped me become a better mom, wife, business partner, and boss, essentially a better human, would be a vast understatement. She has helped me work towards becoming the best version of myself.
She has taught me how to be more present and appreciative of my time with my kids through mindfulness and self-compassion. She has taught me to be less frustrated with challenging situations and/or people in my life through resetting my expectations and using boundaries.
She is the very best at what she does."
- Jamie O'Day, Founder of Boston NAPS
One of the most helpful things for me in Mothering Oneself Mindfully is the sense of community. Even though we are all doing this virtually, there is a sense that we are working alongside each other as like-minded mothers to find ways to find peace in the midst of chaos so that we can then better mother our children. I am finding that I am more aware of my triggers, more aware of what my body needs (movement!!!!), and in turn, working on self compassion. This is a process and a journey. This program has helped me to feel less like I am flailing in the world and gave me a bit of direction. It’s provided accountability, connection, movement (including more ball rolling!!!), and ongoing growth. I feel incredibly lucky to be able to continue this work with Sarah and other women in The School of MOM.
In order to consciously care for yourself, you will first learn about the core components of mindfulness. You will discover what “weeds” have been growing in your mind/body that are not serving you at this point and time in your life.
The four foundational components of mindfulness include:
In order to make positive change, you need to start by seeing your mind, emotions, and body clearly (without judgment!). When one of those usual “What if I’m a bad mom?” thoughts comes up, you’ll learn to get curious about where that thought is coming from, which will take you on a totally new journey of self-discovery as you get to the root of the feeling.
Discernment is the difference between snap judgments/reactions and thoughtful and intentional responses. The space between trigger and response is where mindful discernment lies - and harnessing this skill is truly a superpower! I can’t promise that you’ll stop reacting when your kid throws their shoe at you or your teenager rolls their eyes for the umpteenth time, but you’ll be able to intentionally decide how you want to react if you do.
The opposite of acceptance is resistance, and mindfulness teaches us that this is actually the root cause of suffering! Learning how to allow and accept what is happening is a gateway to finding peace and grace with yourself and others. This doesn’t mean you’ll allow all your desires to go unheeded, however – part of acceptance is knowing when a situation can change, and when it’s time to walk away for your own health.
Self-compassion is truly the heart of the Mothering Oneself Mindfully Program. You aren't practicing mindfulness if you aren't practicing self-compassion/compassion. I truly believe that learning what self-compassion is and how to bring it into your everyday life is a golden secret to showing up for your kids and yourself in a way that feels good to you.
Here’s how the Mothering Oneself Mindfully Program breaks down
The School of MOM and the Mothering Oneself Mindfully Program is here to help you become a conscious and compassionate gardener of your own mind and body.
If you are a legit gardener (which I am desperately trying to be!), you know that in order to successfully grow the seeds you would like to grow, you need to first prep the soil. In the MOM Program, this means you will learn how to create space to make time for yourself and figure out what seeds (i.e. new habits of thinking/doing/being) you even want to plant!
Each month, there will be a live call each week with 2 integration weeks
The general structure of each month will be:
Week 1: Live workshop on monthly theme - Tuesday at 1 pm EST
Week 2: MOM OM - live yoga, ball rolling, meditation class on Monday evening (aka: Mothering Oneself Mindfully On Mondays) - Monday at 7:45 pm EST
Week 3: Integration Call 1 at 10 am EST
Week 4: Integration Call 2 at 1 pm EST
*Integration calls are where you have space to reflect, ask questions and integrate lessons and practices. You are encouraged to attend both, but one is better than none!
Additional LIVE calls include guest speakers & adjunct faculty calls with our parenting coaches. All calls are included in a calendar that you can synch to your personal calendar to get reminders.
Once you have the foundational knowledge and skills to practice and integrate mindfulness and self-compassion into your life and way of being, and you have identified what you would ideally like to cultivate in YOU, it’s time to grow new thinking/doing/being habits. When it comes to nature, we know that water and sun are key ingredients to help nourish growth. When it comes to humans, we also need key ingredients to nourish and grow parts of ourselves i.e. to learn new habits.
We’ll learn about the 3 core ingredients to mothering oneself mindfully.
I joke that everything comes back to boundaries, but it’s true! Boundaries are FOUNDATIONAL for mothering yourself. During this month, you’ll learn what they are and how to implement them in all aspects of your life. Think: your relationships, schedule, and kids, just to name a few!
When you become a mom, a lot of your pleasure is tied up in your kids. Their laughs and full night’s sleep bring you pleasure and that’s a wonderful thing! But as moms, we need to learn/re-learn how to welcome pleasure into our lives for ourselves, and what pleasure even looks and feels like in the first place!
It may seem a little dramatic, but a well-rested mother is quite radical. This month is all about embracing the seemingly unattainable and radical practice of rest. You’ll learn the benefits of rest, how and why to prioritize it, and how to design your own path to actually FEEL rested in the chaos of your daily life as a mom.
The final step of the Mothering Oneself Mindfully Program helps you look to nature as your model and guide when it comes to the process of cultivating habits and making longlasting changes in your life.You’ll harness your new level of consciousness to discern what’s important to you and how you’ll continue the teachings and practices you’ve learned in the Mothering Oneself Mindfully Program to stay committed to your own growth.
During our closing virtual retreat, we’ll focus on three often overlooked, but incredibly important components of making positive changes in your life - being witnessed and celebrated. The retreat will take place on May 30th from 6:30 - 8:30 pm EST.
WHAT MOM GRADS HAVE TO SAY:
or 10x Monthly payments of $125
Opening and Closing Virtual Retreats
Monthly Live Classes
Monthly Live MOM OMs
Monthly Live Integration Calls
Monthly Live Guest Speakers
Adjunct Faculty Drop-ins with Parenting Coach, Children's Therapist & DEI Coach
Moderated Community Space
Welcome Gift for 1st time Members (includes Yoga Tune Up Therapy Balls and Coregeous Ball for MOM OMs)
There is limited space available for The Circle of MOM—our more intimate small group program for women looking to get extra support and accountability in the practice of mothering oneself mindfully. The Circle of MOM includes 2 LIVE in-person retreats in the Boston area. If you are interested in this higher level of support, you can indicate that on your registration and will be notified if space is available.
CIRCLE OF MOM
Wondering who's behind all this?
Hi I'm Sarah Harmon, creator of The School of MOM
I'm a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (ie. therapist), yoga & mindfulness teacher and mother to two girls.
The School of MOM was birthed (pun intended!) out of my personal experience as a mother and its intersection with my professional experience in my therapy practice and yoga classes, working with moms.
About a decade ago, personal issues with my own Mother pushed me into the deep end of struggles. I knew many of my clients and friends were experiencing these challenges too...
endlessly seeking approval
...they showed up everywhere. And support and affirmation from my own Mother wasn't only hard to come by, it was unavailable. And when you’re pushed into the deep end, it truly is sink or swim. But I learned...
And - and speaking of devices that are monumentally impactful, I also came to understand during this challenging time how my favorite “yoga tool” ie.Yoga Tune Up® Therapy Balls were not just about giving yourself some physical relief via self-massage. These little magic balls became the little compassionate companions on the presence and self-compassion journey.
They not only helped me take self-care into my own hands, they became the tangible tool for me to build self-awareness and heal on a mental, physical and emotional level.
It is this healing and awareness that has prepared me well to guide and support you on your journey with mothering, taking care of yourself and healing on many levels!
I’ve brought all my personal and professional experience, training and wisdom together to share with you in a transformative group coaching and self-care program for you to experience the same life-changing impact mindfulness and self-compassion can have on your life.
While a lot of the work we do is personal, that doesn’t mean you have to do it alone.
Because you learned so many of your thought patterns and habits in community, one of the best places to UNLEARN them is also within community.
With group coaching, you’ll discover the kind of support that comes from women who understand what it means to survive listening to 8 hours of “Baby Shark”... on 3 hours of sleep. You’ll discover how at ease and nourished you can feel when you are with people who you don’t have to explain anything to - ESPECIALLY how you feel.
They’ll lovingly (but firmly) insist you show up for yourself, even when you don’t feel like you can, and cheer you on as you make consistent strides in your journey of mothering yourself mindfully. And they’ll lovingly reflect back to you time and time again (as many times as you need to hear it) that you are crushing it at motherhood, and that you ARE worth your own time and attention.
How do you take advantage of this? Sign up and make sure you join the integration calls.
The small group coaching has been a lifeline to my sanity for the past year. When I signed up I had no idea just how impactful these women would be in my journey to trying to better myself and my parenting. I learn something about myself on every call from listening to them and connecting over similar experiences. The calls have made me feel less alone as a mother. Sarah has helped to provide a roadmap for incremental, do-able changes in a non-judgemental, swear like a pirate if need be, cry if necessary, empowering environment. I NEVER want to leave this group.
Sometimes the most selfless act of parenting comes from showing up for yourself.
There’s a lot of parenting resources that talk about unconditional love.
The feeling of knowing someone has your back.
That you can mess up and be forgiven every time.
The knowledge that even if you don’t know what the hell you’re doing, you can be admired for being perfectly imperfect.
But some of you reading this may not actually relate to or know these feelings. If being unconditionally loved and accepted by your parents feels completely foreign, know that you’re not alone.
And… this is why you’re here, on this page, ready to learn how to mother yourself mindfully.
You are here to make RADICAL shifts in generational cycles of guilt, shame, and judgment.
To show your children that because you unconditionally love and accept yourself, you’ve got your own back, which means that you’ve also got theirs.
In the most conscious and loving way possible.
So that when you say, “I’m here for you. You can always call me,”
It’s coming from an unshakeable foundation… because you’ve done the work on YOU.
Guest Speakers & Adjunct Faculty
GUEST TEACHER LINE UP:
I believe a school is only as good as its teachers!
While I will be your headteacher through the duration of the program, one of my FAVORITE parts of The School of MOM is bringing in AMAZING women who can teach and engage with us on a variety of topics.
Our newly revamped curriculum and program won’t just have guest teachers – we’ll also welcome adjunct faculty who will be more accessible on a regular basis.
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ADJUNCT FACULTY FOR PARENTING TOOLS, CHILD DEVELOPMENT SUPPORT AND DEI WORK
Michelle (who I refer to as the toddler whisperer!) is an early childhood educator, mom of five (yes you read that right... FIVE!) and child advocate.
Her Master's Degree in Early Childhood Education has given her knowledge to share best practices. However, her 15 years of experience have given her the wisdom to share realistic tools and goals that have been tested in various settings.
I am so grateful for Michelle for helping me with all my parenting and behavioral questions, and can't wait for our community to learn from (and laugh with!) her.
I am always clear with my clients and community that I do NOT work with kids, even though I have them. This is why I'm thrilled to welcome licensed mental health therapist and parenting coach, Gretchen Herter, to help us understand child development and ways to foster healthy mental and emotional health.
Gretchen utilizes a combination of different therapeutic modalities and helps clients and parents to develop positive coping strategies to meet their goals and strives to provide an open, warm and positive environment in which clients can work toward their own personal-growth and development.
As seen on OWN, CBS, and HGTV, Ashani Mfuko is an Award-Winning Anti-Racism Educator, and the Host of the Anti-Racism School Is In Session™ Podcast. She is also a Digital Content Creator, Professional Dancer, and the CEO of Ashani Mfuko Consulting Worldwide LLC, a global DEI communications consultancy; which also provides anti-racism education, and diverse digital media services, based in the state of New York.
Ashani teaches established leaders and parents worldwide, how to become anti-racist, live an anti-racist lifestyle, and raise anti-racist kids, so they can create a more beautiful and equitable world for all people.
Ashani believes that we all have a God-given purpose on this earth, and deserve to live peacefully, freely, and be fully ourselves, without fear of harm, discrimination, or mistreatment of any kind.
She is committed to dismantling the oppressive systems that intentionally harm people in marginalized groups, and educating and empowering people all over the world on how to become anti-racist, and live an anti-racist lifestyle, 365 days of the year.
One of my key values in life and business is authenticity. In order to show up as my full authentic self, I want to be laser clear about what I stand for and what I am committed to when it comes to diversity, equity and inclusion. You can read the rest of my DEI journey statement HERE.
Let’s be honest:
There's NO way we're going to get through a year of this program without some pop up visits from two of my absolute favorite friends and moms, Jamie O'Day and Emily Silver from Nurture by NAPS for the perfect blend of personal and professional parenting advice.
Sooo you have that to look forward to as well.
PLUS 2+ more teachers yet to be confirmed
"The Mothering Oneself Mindfully Program opened my eyes to the power of mindfulness and gave me space to learn how to practice it. Sarah's expertise is only surpassed by her warmth, compassion and commitment to helping women cope with stress, uncertainty and life's daily grind. The School of MOM has enabled me to connect with a community of women who offer support, understanding and a sense of belonging in a world that can be isolating at times. I've only just begun to explore the practice of mindfulness and can clearly see the benefits of incorporating it into my life. I give all the credit to The School of MOM."
I was vaguely familiar with mindfulness practice, but Sarah helped me to strengthen the connection between mindfulness practice and my everyday life. There was no pressure or promises of immediate happiness or peace, but there were tangible everyday strategies, science based information about the way our brains work (science nerd here, I loved it), and most importantly gentle encouragement and compassion. There are so many amazing things to highlight about Sarah’s program, but my favorite by far has been being a part of the community. The willingness of other women to have an open dialogue with themselves and share so vulnerablely has made me feel incredibly empowered and cared for – by myself and by others. It’s just the start of my journey, and I’m grateful, especially now to have the resources and connection Sarah’s community provides.
"Working with Sarah has changed my life and unlocked my soul to experiencing myself, my life, and motherhood in the way I’ve always wanted. She keeps its 100% real, offers you 360 support via extensive resources, yoga practice, mindfulness, and helping to reframe how I approached my anxiety and internal negative dialog. She’s extremely well read and brings that as a foundation coupled with her authentic way of connecting with you right where you're at....and always never with judgement. Sarah’s incorporation of mindfulness and self compassion have unearthed the tools of mothering myself which is something I hadn’t done for myself and now that I’m a mom is more important than ever."
Since meeting Sarah I have been in awe of her natural ability to get others to let go and encourage others to let go with her (no one can dance on camera like Sarah!).
When I heard about The School of Mom it was a no brainer that I needed in! The course became my outlet to focus on me and attempt to let go of mom guilt, especially missing bedtime... by the end of the course I was locking the door and fully letting Dad do bedtime, WIN!!!
Sarah's genuine and caring approach helped me shift my mindset that self care had to be a large chunk of time and realize even a moment of deep breathing could change my day. Along with Sarah, I looked forward to hearing from other mom's I could relate to and nod along with as we each shared our struggles. The sense of community, even when virtual, felt very real and much needed. Sarah is a truly gifted teacher!
Still wondering if this program is for you?
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Frequently Asked Questions
The program is 8 months and runs from Oct 2 - May 28th. While it is technically a "school year," you will have lifelong access to the recordings and you will be able to attend LIVE guest teacher classes for future programs!
Similar to the way we can't go to the gym once and stay fit, the practice of mindfulness is not a "quick fix." It is a lifelong (and incredibly worthwhile and lifechanging!) practice. It is our hope that you stay engaged with the material/practices and continue to implement and integrate what you've learned into your life. In order to support you beyond the course, you will receive a Course Graduate Only Invitation to The Circle of MOM. More details will be provided on this at the end of the program.
Once you register for Mothering Oneself Mindfully, your Yoga Tune Up® Therapy Balls and welcome gift will be on their way to your doorstep. You will receive an email in August with all program details, calendar and information about a short pre-program module.
Yes. Dhana (Donation) Registration is available for those who are experiencing financial hardship. It is the strong belief of The School of MOM that the teachings/practices of mindfulness should be accessible to everyone. Please contact firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
There will be at least two 10-15 min practice videos per module. Practices are intentionally chosen and are a blend of the ancient wisdom of mindfulness, and evidence-based practices from the field of psychology. They will include mindfulness meditations, yoga and self-massage sequences using Yoga Tune Up® Therapy Balls or alternative self-massage tools (that will be discussed in the welcome module), which you can find at home.
Please note that you do not have to have any mindfulness or yoga experience for this course. Everyone is welcome.
There are 4 Modules in the beginning of the program that introduce the foundational principles of mindfulness, the science behind why they are so beneficial, and accessible tools on how to practice them. After the foundation is set, we will move into boundaries, rest and pleasure - the key "nourishing ingredients" in learning how to mothering oneself mindfully.
Once students have completed the 8 month program, they are more than welcome to return for another year! MOM Program graduates are also invited to be a part of a more intimate group coaching container, known as The Circle of MOM.
Be notified when enrolment opens again!